I don’t remember the first time I talked to God, but I remember the moment I decided prayer was personal.
It’s funny how you don’t recall most of life when you’re three or four years old, but you can have these few vivid memories that play back like a well-worn movie.
I don’t remember how I knew my father had left us. I don’t remember how I felt about the whole ordeal of divorce.
But I sat on a swing-set in my backyard one day when I was about four and I said this,
“God, You’ll have to be my Daddy now.”
That I remember.
And prayer has always been that for me, not some awkward attempt to wax poetic before a stern God. I’ve never felt like my prayers have to ‘measure up’ or ‘sound holy.’
Because it’s always just been me, a simple girl talking to Dad about life on a swing-set, about making tough decisions, about life as a mom, about life….
I found a prayer journal years ago with categories and lists, a calendar of prayer planning, verses and notes, bookmarks, quotes, all spiral bound for easy writing.
I’m a little surprised that it didn’t light up or play music.
But the thing about that super-duper-deluxe journal is that I never could use it. All those bells and whistles complicated prayer, made it so cumbersome and bulky.
I’d been chatting with God all day, every day for decades, and I couldn’t cram all that intimacy into a multi-step method in this how-to of prayer.
Maybe formulas and fancy systems work for you.
Or perhaps you’re like me, who simply wants prayer to be communion with God, the recognition of His presence here in this place.
Samuel Chadwick wrote:
“The one concern of the devil is to keep Christians from praying. He fears nothing from prayerless studies, prayerless work, and prayerless religion. He laughs at our toil, mocks at our wisdom, but trembles when we pray” Samuel Chadwick
There’s such power in this prayer, and yet too often we avoid it and neglect it because we over-complicate it.
We act as if we’re not really praying unless we pray for two hours straight, on our knees, in a prayer closet, with a prayer journal, and maintain an adequate ratio of praise-to-petition.
And, since we can’t do all that, we simply don’t pray at all.
But God doesn’t regulate prayer with some hierarchical system of holiness.
That’s Satan, complicating things so that we give it all up all-together, feeding us the lies:
Prayer is too hard.
Prayer is for the holy.
I get bored.
If only I could pray like her. I guess I’m just a failure.
Surely God hears her prayers, but not mine because I don’t know how to start or what words to say and what if I get it all wrong?
I don’t have anything to say that’s important enough for God to hear.
Perhaps that’s how the disciples felt, when they overheard the Pharisees praying Shakespeare-quality performances every time they bowed their heads in the synagogue.
So, they asked Jesus, “Lord, teach us to pray….”
Maybe they expected a formula or a long lecture about the process of prayer or a complicated prayer cataloging system.
But Jesus did the opposite. The Lord’s Prayer fits into five simple verses, which Jesus prefaced with this:
And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him (Matthew 6:5-8 NIV).
Don’t pray to show off.
Don’t feel like you need to pray for a long time.
Keep it simple. Pray what’s on your heart, because God already knows what you’re thinking and feeling.
Over the years, I’ve kept prayers on Index cards, prayers in beautiful journals, prayers on my fridge, prayers in a Word Processor on my computer.
And you know what? All of them were prayer. All of them helped me rest in the presence of God, learning to trust Him with my needs and learning to listen to His voice.
In the end, what matters about prayer isn’t so much how we pray; it’s that we actually do it.
Now it’s your turn: Has prayer ever seemed complicated or difficult to you? What do you want to learn most about prayer? What’s the best advice about prayer you’ve ever been given? What have you found that works?
Originally published February 3, 2014
Heather King is a wife, mom, Bible Study teacher, writer and worship leader. Most importantly, she is a Christ follower with a desire to help others apply the Bible to everyday life with all its mess, noise, and busyness. Her book, Ask Me Anything, Lord: Opening Our Hearts to God’s Questions, is available now! To read more devotionals by Heather King, click here.