The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages
by Shaunti Feldhahn
In her new book, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages, Shaunti Feldhahn shares what she’s discovered from her latest research on what helps marriages thrive. She found that lots of couples focus on what they consider the “big things” like ‘communication,’ but that can’t really identify what that means or what it looks like. Yet, really there are a few small habits, actions, and behaviors that the most happily married couples had in common.
Some of these little secrets might be no secret to you, like spending time together. Others might be more surprising, like the fact that highly happy married couples sometimes leave a conflict for another day rather than trying to hash it before bed no matter how physically tired and emotionally depleted they are.
She also emphasizes at the end of the book that no one should tackle all these tips at once. It’s too easy to get overwhelmed, forget, or just give up. Instead, choose one or two focal points and work on those. Even if one partner chooses to change, she argues, most marriages will benefit from these practices.
The book moves quickly and is easy to read. Ultimately, the emphasis is on kindness and commitment, two marriage tips we might all agree on, but fail to really practice in our own homes with our own spouses.
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