The Good News About Marriage: Debunking Discouraging Myths about Marriage and Divorce
by Shaunti Feldhahn with Tally Whitehead
After hearing for years and years how 50% of all marriages end in divorce, I couldn’t be more pleased to read the truth in Shaunti Feldhahn’s book, The Good News About Marriage. She delves into what the research and statistics actually say in order to uncover 5 myths about marriage and how the truth actually gives us hope.
After all, if you only have a 50/50 chance of staying married or being happy in marriage, then whose to blame if your marriage fails? It’s easier to give up and throw in the towel if you think you’re just one among many.
But when we realize that the statistic has never even been close to 50% of marriages ending in divorce, our outlook can change. The truth is, most marriages last and most marriages are happy.
That doesn’t mean we don’t need to be concerned about marriage or helping those who are struggling. It does mean, though, that we can stop making couples feel like their marriages will be hard and probably a failure. Those couples, when they realize that most marriages last, may find that’s exactly the hope they need to stick it out and to work harder at making their own marriage a success.
Shaunti manages to make surveys, research and statistics easy to read . She highlights her big ideas well and summarizes points often so they don’t get lost in the numbers. She really tries to balance verifying her data with not losing her audience.
Overall, this book scared me a bit because of how ‘facts’ seem to become an unstoppable force. I’ve certainly heard countless sermons and marriage talks with the gloom and doom news about marriage. I’ve read it in books and articles over and over. But it’s wonderful to hear the truth and to look at marriage with renewed optimism and hope.
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I look forward to reading this. I actually bought it recently but haven’t cracked it open yet. It is frightening indeed how ‘facts’ become cemented in our cultural consciousness. Nice review.