Would you do this for me?

I didn’t expect it to happen.

But then, when can you really and truly expect what God can do?  He’s the master of surprising us with joy and working behind the scenes until the moment of the big reveal.prayinghandsraised

And the beautiful thing about the way God does this is that He gets the glory and we just humbly lift our hands to receive and to worship, one movement of the hands to heaven for both the giving and the getting.

A few months ago, I wrote a blog post about ministry to single women, military wives and other women whose husbands’ travel.   Just one week with my husband out of town reminded me that:

we minister to others out of our own experiences (2 Corinthians 1:4).  Just as others have served me during my short-term single mom moments, so I should take the time to serve another.

It’s a ministry to divorced moms, widows, military wives with husbands on deployment and other wives with husbands away.  They may not have the safety net of a call from dad to threaten unruly children.  Their single mom reality might not end with a plane trip home after a week away.

Last Friday afternoon, I opened up the email from a Christian magazine asking me to work up an article on this and submit it to them for consideration of publication.

And this is God—do you see it?

The way He spoke truth to my heart and opened my tightly shut eyes to consider the needs of women around me could never be anything other than His Holy Spirit at work, convicting and giving counsel when I needed it.

The way He took one simple post on one ordinary day and one simple act of obedience as I sat at the laptop clicking the keys and confessing how I’ve messed this up and neglected these women too often shows off His power and grace.

But now I need you.

Yes, you.

And I’m hoping, very much hoping, that you would graciously share your input with me.

Before I send an article in to the magazine and wait to see if they agree to publish it or not, may I ask this of you?

Would you take just a moment and share here on the blog or on Facebook or maybe even send a private email message to me (heatherking@cox.net) your thoughts on this topic?

I’ve included some questions below.  I’m looking for input from single moms, military wives and other women whose husband’s are frequently away.  Not just if this is you now.  If you’ve ever been in that season before, I’d like to hear from you.

That’s not all, though.

Even if you’re married with kids, if you’ve ever ministered to women who are in that place, maybe through a church ministry, maybe just reaching out to a friend, I would love to hear from you, as well.

If you share something with me that you wouldn’t want included in my article, please let me know that, as well.  I want to honor your privacy if you wish it.

And then may I ask this also?  Just one more thing.

Would you pray for me? 

Oh, how I would rejoice in those prayers!

The summer is here and I’m like most moms, balancing commitments and summer fun with the kids.  For me this means  meeting deadlines, sending out articles, turning things in to the editor, and finishing up one large writing project before we have a new baby in October and I don’t sleep for three months (at least) and my brain scrambles any ability I have to write intelligibly.

But I also have these three precious girls who are eager for mornings at the beach and trips to the library, making s’mores, playing board games, visiting museums, and being shuttled to summer camps.

Paul asked it of the churches often.  Just a simple request: “pray for us” (1 Thessalonians 5:25-28 HCSB).  This is what I ask of you.  Would you pray for my time and productivity, for God’s wisdom and grace, for the words to share, and for God’s favor?

I am so thankful for those of you who have been praying on my behalf.  How humbled I am to know that you would pray for me.



Questions for single moms and women with husbands who travel (now or in the past).

  1. Have you ever felt neglected, ostracized, overlooked or just out of place in church ministries because you are a single mom or perhaps have a husband who travels?
  2. Tell about one time the church or any friend has ministered to you in a practical way or encouraged you.
  3. What was/is your greatest need from the Christian community or friends?  A night out without children, a listening ear, someone to do “Dad” stuff with your kids?
  4. What do you wish other Christian women knew about life as a mom on her own (even if it’s part-time)?

Questions for Christian women ministering to others:

  1. How does your church actively, consciously and practically meet the needs of military wives, widows, single moms, and other women whose husbands travel?
  2. Do you think to include these women in church women’s ministries, get-togethers or even nights out with friends?

Please take that moment sometime this week to send me your thoughts by answering the questions or just writing what’s on your heart and mind.  You can reply to this post on the blog, share with me on Facebook, or write me an email: heatherking@cox.net.   I very much long to hear from you and learn from you!!!

Heather King is a wife, mom, Bible Study teacher, writer and worship leader.  Most importantly, she is a Christ follower with a desire to help others apply the Bible to everyday life with all its mess, noise, and busyness.  Her upcoming book, Ask Me Anything, Lord: Opening Our Hearts to God’s Questions, will be released in the Fall of 2013!  To read more devotionals by Heather King, click here.

Copyright © 2013 Heather King

2 thoughts on “Would you do this for me?

  1. Vickie Smith says:

    A couple of thoughts come to mind. First, I remember the hassle of having to pile a bunch of kids into the car just to buy a gallon of milk. A great way to help out is to offer to pick up milk or bread while you are out. Offering to watch the kids so the mom/dad can go out to run errands or get a breather for an hour or two without kids occasionally is helpful. I also took full advantage of church ministry, especially for my boys, while Dad was away. I wanted to make sure there was Godly male influences in their lives. And it never failed, the toilet would get clogged, car would break down, or any number of inconveniences would come about. I got real good at unclogging toilets until it got to the time that the entire toilet had to be pulled up to remove the hot wheels car that was jammed in such a place that it wouldn’t budge. I was fortunate and had a lot of brothers and a father who I could call, but many others aren’t lucky enough to have family that close. My mother’s church has a wonderful ministry that reaches out to the widows and single moms. The mens’ ministry comes over and cuts grass and takes care of minor repairs. In the winter they even come de-ice steps on Sunday mornings to help people to get to their cars. A word of wisdom here – men should always be in a group when going to a woman’s house, or a husband and wife team. These are just a few thoughts that come to mind immediately as I remember back.

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