I thought I just wasn’t into roller coasters.
This summer, though, I discovered I couldn’t even handle, much less enjoy, the whirling tea cups at Busch Gardens. I rode them visit after visit because my three-year-old finds them great fun and she has to ride with an adult.
But I braced myself each time. My middle girl always yelled the same thing, “Spin the wheel! It makes us go faster!”
As I hung on with a white-knuckled grip, I managed to sputter out something like, “Aren’t we spinning enough already?”
It gets worse than that.
Recently, I sat on the swing next to my preschooler as she shouted at me to “swing higher.” I gave it a try even though it’s been years since I’d swung on a swingset and I’ll tell you what I discovered.
I’m old. Even a swing made my stomach flip into complicated and tangled knots.
How is this fun? This little girl next to me in a ponytail and light-up shoes was giggling and squealing that she needed to rise higher and higher.
I suppose I just prefer solid ground. No need for speed. No desire to let gravity wreak havoc on my digestive system. Fun for me is a trip to the library, a hushed walk through a museum, a long stroll on a cool day, a comfy couch with my book, chocolate and cup of tea.
That is fun. Spinning, screaming, and lifting off the ground = not fun.
This is, perhaps, why first grade friendships have me befuddled lately. Friendship means loving one another, believing the best about each other, laughing and crying together. It means loyalty, sharing, encouragement and support.
In first grade, though, the kids are still figuring all that out. So, instead of the solid ground kind of you-can-count-on-me, dependable relationships, they end up with something more like a daytime soap opera, a roller coaster of kindness and backstabbing.
My first grader reports one day that so-and-so said, “she can only be friends with one girl and nobody else” and she stuck out her tongue or wrote a nasty note or stole my daughter’s glue stick and mocked her hair cut.
The next day, my daughter says they are friends now and played together all day.
The day after that, she reports the girl “just left her alone and ignored her.”
Even as adults, we can find this world a dizzying place to live, a roller coaster ride of the unexpected and occasionally the downright scary.
We are blessed, some of us, to have friendships and marriages that keep our feet firmly locked onto the unshakeable ground of trustworthy relationships.
And yet, how often lately I have heard of lovers who swore to “love, honor and cherish ’til death do us part” later end up enemies on the opposite sides of a divorce attorney’s table.
Even truly loyal relationships end eventually, maybe through moving or even death. The people we count on and love won’t always be with us, not here on this transient planet anyway.
That’s why it’s so precious that Jesus declared,
“I no longer call you servants. I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you” (John 15:15).
He’s our forever friend! So faithful, so eternally compassionate, so genuinely understanding. This is no first-grade cohort, kind today and snippy tomorrow, supportive today and jealously cruel the next.
He’s day-after-day, in-and-out, always-and-forever loyal to those He calls friends.
But am I?
That’s what Joni Eareckson Tada asked in Diamonds in the Dust:
“What a friend I have in Jesus. But I wonder….what kind of friend does He have in me?
Too often we stay at an arm’s-length distance, pulling back from the full intensity of an intimate friendship with the Lord. We satisfy ourselves with “less” when it comes to our relationship with Him” (p. 400).
Of course, Jesus is faithful. That’s His character. It’s who He is no matter what.
The question really is more about me. What kind of friend am I to God? Do I pull away, afraid to get too close for fear He’ll discover the ugly truth about some of my faults, foibles and (to be honest) sins?
Do I chatter and laugh with Him affectionately some days only to abandon Him the next for busyness and more instant gratification?
Do I deny Him and stray from Him when I’m angry or hurt? Do I believe the best about His character even when I don’t understand what He’s doing?
To be a better friend with God requires maturing past our first-grade relationship tactics and becoming day-after-day loyal and true regardless of our emotions, circumstances, or the enticements of others.
Today we can choose to be better friends to each other and to our trustworthy God who is so consistently faithful to us.
Heather King is a wife, mom, Bible Study teacher, writer and worship leader. Most importantly, she is a Christ follower with a desire to help others apply the Bible to everyday life with all its mess, noise, and busyness. Her upcoming book, Ask Me Anything, Lord: Opening Our Hearts to God’s Questions, will be released in the Fall of 2013! To read more devotionals by Heather King, click here.
Copyright © 2012 Heather King