My sweet Andrew,
People like to tell me all the time how big you are.
They stop me in the hallways at church.
They shake their head in wonder when we pick your sisters up from school.
They post comments when I share your picture on Facebook.
Random strangers even chime in with a chorus of “what a big, handsome boy” when I’m waiting in the checkout line at Wal-Mart.
You are not a baby anymore, not by any means.
And, this probably makes you so proud and so ready to take on the world.
The other morning, in all of my sleepiness, I made the mistake of lifting you into your booster seat so you could eat your breakfast cereal. You screamed at me for 5 minutes.
You had to climb up in that booster seat yourself, grunting and working those muscles all the way. And didn’t you flash me a look of “see, I told you I could do this all on my own” when you finally made it?
I get it. Two years old is about finding a voice, learning what’s ‘mine,’ bumping against the rules so you know where they are, and striking out into the big wide world of “I can do it myself.”
Just know how much we love you, how we’re standing strong on the rules at times because we love you so, and how I’m praying for you as you grow.
Your sense of humor and joy are a strength and a treasure. Never lose that.
You have this deep, deep belly laugh that shows up in your eye
s, and the tiniest things will send you into fits of giggles. You explore every possibility and love to play, initiating light saber duels, tickling sessions, peekaboo, and dance-a-thons with us.
This big world sure is a wonder. Always look wide-eyed. Don’t miss out on the joy. And laugh: Laugh often and laugh hard.
It’s okay to know what you want, but make sure you want the right things.
I’ve had go-with-the-flow babies and I’ve had know-their-own-mind babies. You are the latter. It’s a strength that I love about you.
Stand up for the right things even if no one else does. Be honest. Fight for justice.
But if you’re going to pursue what you really want in life, make sure what you want is good and true.
Be passionate about God’s Word, about truth, about the Gospel, about compassion.
And know that the best things in this life aren’t just worth waiting for; they are worth working hard for.
Leadership begins with serving others.
Our family attracts comments everywhere we go—-how you’ll be so spoiled by three older sisters. How you “don’t stand a chance.” How you’ll be “mothered to death.”
My son, you are the baby in this family with three big sisters to dote on you and treat you like the center of the universe.
Know how much you are loved, but don’t be fooled into thinking this world should serve you. Instead, serve others.
Be humble. Put other people first.
Christ didn’t lead by demanding attention or through selfishness and abuse. He led with humble self-sacrifice and compassion. “Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves” (Philippians 2:3 ESV).
Know beauty when you see it.
I’ve spent years teaching three daughters that “Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting” (Proverbs 31:30). I tell them that true beauty is Jesus in you; it’s strength, gentleness, wisdom, discipline, honesty, kindness, and Christ-like love.
They need to know how to be truly beautiful.
You need to know how to see true beauty.
By the time you start building up real memories of me, I’ll be about 40 years old and have birthed four children. But, dear son, may you still see beauty in me: the real kind, the kind that grows with time instead of fading. The kind that sacrifices self to pour out for others. The kind of beauty that isn’t defined by a number on a scale or the color or style of my hair, but that comes from wisdom and grace.
You’ll find tons of girls who know how to do their hair, put on their makeup and choose the perfect outfit. Don’t be deceived.
Don’t look for someone whose beauty peaks at 22 years old, before kids, and depends on products, expensive clothes, and hours in front of the mirror.
Look for someone who will be beautiful at 40…at 60….at 80.
True beauty isn’t how you look at any given moment; it’s always about who you are becoming.
And know this….
I am so deeply thankful that God chose me to be your mama. What an honor and a joy to have you as my son.
Heather King is a wife, mom, Bible Study teacher, writer and worship leader. Most importantly, she is a Christ follower with a desire to help others apply the Bible to everyday life with all its mess, noise, and busyness. Her book, Ask Me Anything, Lord: Opening Our Hearts to God’s Questions, is available now! To read more devotionals by Heather King, click here.
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