“I want to come!”
This is my son. He lives in a constant state of high-alert awareness, making sure no one in the family goes out for an adventure or for some fun without bringing him along.
We plan a movie day, just me and my girls to see a film that isn’t animated and isn’t going to hold the interest of my active four-year-old boy.
Somehow, though, without us talking to him or even talking near him so he’ll overhear us, he manages to catch the word “movies” and pipes up with his current catchphrase, “I want to come!”
This is so hard.
I am an oldest child in a family of 5 kids. Until I had a youngest child of my own, I had no idea how hard it can be sometimes to be the baby of the family.
He is the one who wants to play, but the others are too old to play.
He is the one who always wants to come even if we’re going somewhere he can’t go. That means feeling left behind and that breaks his momma’s heart.
So, we try our best. We draw him in. We take him whenever we can. That’s not everywhere and that’s not always, but we do our best.
Right in the middle of decorating our Christmas tree, last weekend, I ran out of working Christmas lights. It had been a long and busy day full of projects, but unfinished projects are like fingernails on a chalkboard for me. I cannot do, “let it wait until tomorrow.”
So, off I went, grabbing my bag and prepping for an emergency dash to the Wal-Mart.
My son saw my bag and sure enough said, “I want to come!”
He didn’t even know where I was going. He just didn’t want to be left out.
Of course, making quick runs into a store is much easier without children along for the ride, but I grabbed his coat and shoes and took him with me because I could.
We drove out of our neighborhood slowly, marveling at all the Christmas lights. We bought our supplies at the store and as we walked back out, Andrew shouted to a group of unknown bystanders, “Hey, they have a lot of Christmas stuff in there!” Then we drove back home a slightly different way so we could see the decorations on a whole new set of houses.
The best part of our unexpected adventure was his presence. He was there. He didn’t miss it. I had drawn him in to the journey and pulled him alongside as a companion and he brought all the joy when wrestling with the lights on that tree had left me joy-depleted.
This is one of the gifts of the Christmas season: Jesus draws us in and He draws us together with others.
This is what He did for Mary, as she was commissioned to be the mother of the Messiah, right when the calling was at its most overwhelming and she could have felt both overwhelmed and all alone. That’s when the angel said:
And behold, your relative Elizabeth in her old age has also conceived a son, and this is the sixth month with her who was called barren (Luke 1:36 ESV).
You’re not in this by yourself. Come. Share this experience and this calling with another.
That was the invitation.
It was an invitation to do the hard thing with another rather than all alone.
And the angels made other announcements. The heavens displayed other signs. They shared the good news of great joy with a group of shepherds co-laboring in the fields, and a group of wise men studying the skies and ancient texts together.
These men had been working together and searching together. Now, they became fellow-travelers and fellow-witnesses, bringing their community to Jesus and bringing Jesus to their community.
So much of me wants to hide away and hibernate by the time we hit December. The calendar has “no more room at the inn” and my depleted resources leave me with little left to give.
Jesus draws others in.
He brought His very presence right into the middle of the everyday, ordinary, needy lives of people and then invited them to come and not just to come alone, but to come together .
Maybe this Christmas can be a Christmas of invitation for us. Maybe instead of doing alone and going alone, we can ask another, “Do you want to come?” It can be last minute, it can be messy, it can be casual, it can be crazy. It can be formal and planned or it can be made up as we go along.
It can be a prayer as we begin the Advent season, “Lord, draw me to you….and draw me to others.”